Do you have a friend you love but can’t seem to make time for him or her? I know I do. I have this one friend in particular who I have to get up extra early to have coffee with because I can’t seem to fit him into a normal part of my day.
We get into these deep heart to hearts where he challenges me and comforts me. I need those times, I need to be real without fear of rejection or judgement.
I need someone to see me without being put off.
In case you didn’t know, I’m a little rough around the edges. I very strongly value authenticity, even when it isn’t pretty. Our cultural climate in America doesn’t embrace this, if you don’t have a pretty painted smile on your face, you have problems and that’s unacceptable.
You’ve may have guessed who this friend is, He is Jesus, and He wants to hear the real you, too.
Let’s be honest, Jesus already knows the real you, He knows everything about you. You might as well fess up to those negative feelings and those ugly thoughts you have, He wants to talk to you about them. He wants you to move pass them.
He wants to heal your heart.
If you haven’t lived your life in a cave, you probably have some heart hurts. Your dad disappointed you, your mom didn’t take your side, your boss blamed you for something that wasn’t your fault, a teacher had a personal vendetta against you… the list goes on.
When we don’t bring the brokenness to Jesus, we can let it become part of us, the hurt becomes our identity, and that is VERY dangerous.
Why is it dangerous?
Because your identity is the place where you live from. If you believe you are a confident, young woman, you will act like a confident, young woman. You will look like a confident, young woman. People will think you are a confident, young woman.
If you believe you are a broken, crazy girl, you will act like that. You will look like that, and it is likely people will think that of you.
Get a shovel.
Yes, it can hurt to dig up that baggage. Yes, it can seem kind of pointless reliving it just to give it away. Why not just keep it buried and move on?
Because it doesn’t stay buried. It will begin to quietly bleed into your closest relationships, the people you love the most, and it will begin erecting walls between them and you. It may have nothing to do with them, but it will affect them.
An angst will rise in you and will overtake you emotionally, and it can affect you physically. It will eat your up your peace and joy like cancer and can be the root of illness. Your baggage will not stay buried, you have to unpack it and give it to Jesus.
When you do not give Jesus your baggage, you allow the enemy to best you and in essence, you make him bigger than God. With God, you can overcome whatever is packed in those bags. God can use it for good. However, when you passively accept that the enemy is bigger than God in your world, that is heresy, and you don’t want to do that.
How do I give my baggage to God?
You have coffee with Jesus.
Wait, that is it? I just sit down and have coffee and pretend like I’m talking Jesus at the table?
Number one, Jesus is there, you don’t have to pretend. As a Christian, the Holy Spirit is always with you, and while Jesus is seated at the right hand of the Father, He will come down and have coffee with you.
I have had experiences where I literally felt Jesus hugging me. I’ve been alone, usually bawling my eyes out, and He was hugging me. He said, “Ask in My name, and I will do it.” Ask Him to join you for coffee.
What do you do over coffee with close friends? You put your cards on the table, you pour your heart out to them and they listen. They laugh with you, they cry with you, and they challenge you.
Simply put, you can breakthrough the baggage in these simple steps:
- Ask Jesus to join you for coffee like you would ask a very close friend
- Tell Him the struggles of your heart (He already knows them)
- Ask Him to take them
- Thank Him for listening and taking them so you can walk in freedom
- Ask Him what you should do now
He may give you a specific answer, He may not, it depends on you. Most likely, you will need some time to process what you just walked through with Him.
The enemy will probably try to bring these issues back into your life, he doesn’t want you to walk free. When he tempts you to reclaim these issues as your identity, you need to tell him specifically and out loud, “On (the specific date), I gave that issue to Jesus and He took it away from me. He still has it, I’m not taking it back. I am free in Jesus name.”
Thank Jesus for the freedom He provided by dying on the cross. Remember these Bible verses below (and your favorites), be encouraged by them, and don’t let the enemy steal your peace, joy, or freedom.
Submit to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee. James 4:7
Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7